BALANCE YOUR
By Prof. RISHABH SHASTRI
BALANCE YOUR "Care or Control"
Be Cautious on Your Relationship -Think Twice. Whether You Do Really CARE Or CONTROL Your Near & Dear Ones ???
Here is a nice Experience Shared By A Sensitive Doctor
I was in a consultation with a middle aged couple.They started fighting right in front of me. The upset husband said- See Doctor......, I 'CARE' so much for her & this is what I get in return.....To which the fuming wife replied---
He Doesn't CARE...He just 'CONTROLS'...!!!
it's a Great Dilemma !!! What is considered to be a Great CARE to a person is considered to be a Great CONTROL by another .
It Forced me to think......what is CARE and what is CONTROL ????
How to IDENTIFY THEM ????
Soon I received the right Answer of it.
I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue...Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears...
After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other...My daughter hugged me and said-- Papa , Do you know why you got upset? You were not upset because I did wrong.....but you were upset because I didnt follow your instructions....there is a big difference..!
I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern. ........I received my answer too....... I was trying to control her under the disguise of care......
that caused the conflict ........
If I really 'care' from someone , I will not get upset or angry with that person.. ....I will keep searching different ways to help him..
If I am struggling in any relationship...I need to closely observe if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care...because
CARE is an expression of LOVE while CONTROL is an expression of EGO...
Control cuts...Care connects ...
Control hurts...Care heals...
Keep caring for people but dont control them ... because
Often people are not wrong...they are just 'Different'...
KEEP CARING....... KEEP LOVING.
Don't Try To Control Your Near & Dear Ones .